my humble opinion in the term 'friendship'.
1. What does the word 'friend' mean to you? there are many variations in the term 'friend'. In general, a friend is a bond that connects one person to the other, is a person you know personally and accepts you as the way you are. They wouldn't judge you but they would be frank their thoughts on you. Friendship stands only when and if the person is willing to be there for you and you are to them.
however, we do hear the term 'best friend' or 'close friend. This unique term is given to those that you're closely related with emotionally and mentally. They do not only accept you as who you are but they will be there for you, standing by your side in every choice you make. They're the first people you turn to, the ones that will lend you their shoulders and the ones that will fight with you to the very end.
in many cases, your lover is your best friend.
2. Do you understand the difference between friends and associates?
Associates are people you meet and talk to. People you know at a certain level. They could be the people you meet at times in gatherings or those you might go out with for a movie. The difference here is that, you hold back to a certain level on your personal life and thoughts. They're also the ones you might not put full effort in knowing, understanding or sacrificing.
3. Can a friend be demoted to associate or vice versa?
Yes. I believe that people change and every changes we make, we walk a different path. There will always be a time when your friend walk a path you're not willing to follow and endure.
I personally had a friendship of 16 years that have been demoted to an associate. It might look like a waste but we've changed too much and I can no longer be myself when I'm with her.
4. If you are in the middle of a jungle with only monkeys around, could they become your friends based on your definition in #1 above?
well, if I can communicate to them at a personal level, share my thoughts n emotions, really be there for them as they will be there for me... Why not? and if I can't.. The max it'll be is just an acquaintance or nothing.
Who decides who is a friend and who is not? In other words, is a friend a person who fits the dictionary term for 'friend' or is it based on your definition? If someone wants to be your friend and you choose not, is the person still a friend to you?
its a mutual fact that both decides the level of friendship. Everyone of us have a different idea of what friendship should be like, therefore, its up to us on the decision making.
if someone wants to be my friend but I choose not to, that person would just be an acquaintance to me. As for the person himself/herself, that's their decision to make and not mine.
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