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11th Apr, 2006 - 1:32am / Post ID: #

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QUOTE (malexander @ 9-Apr 06, 10:33 PM)
I also believe that limiting access to Internet tools such as Email and Instant Messenger accounts is also key. My daughter does not have her own email address or any instant messenger accounts, even though all of her friends have both.

Although I can surely understand the need for caution... At the same time, I remember being a teenager (not too difficult as it was only 2 years ago biggrin.gif ). I used MSN Messenger all the time when I was in High School, probably too much. I only accepted contacts if I knew who they were for the most part, and I think I would not have liked it if my parents said I couldn't use it, but I would have lived and gotten over it.

As for email - it has practically taken the place of personal mail these days. I don't really know what age is good to start with an email address... but if it is a good service such as gmail, where there are no image ads and if it has spam protection, it seems a shame to withhold such a resource.

Again, age makes a large difference. But in my opinion, with the computer as well as anything else, there has to be some level at which the child is left to judge for themself, or in other words, some aspect that you have to trust them with. Otherwise, how can they learn to make correct decisions on their own? I am not a parent so I don't know as much as those who are, but I have seen things that worked for my parents with me. I think I would have a good filter and put it in a common area, do some supervision and over-shoulder looking once in a while, and call it good.



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11th Apr, 2006 - 1:44am / Post ID: #

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QUOTE (Dimavo)
I don't really know what age is good to start with an email address

My baby sister currently has her own E-mail address at the age of 9. She really is too young to do anything with it unsupervised to an extent but she is able to send mail to her cousins that moved away which makes her very proud.

*I believe that here it is the seventh grade that an e-mail account is used in the classroom for assignments in the computer lit classroom.

*At the 9th grade level and above the teachers are assigning homework via a web page and accepting it via E-mail. It is nearly to the point that online correspondence is a learning tool that everyone will be utilizing before long.



Post Date: 14th Apr, 2006 - 2:32am / Post ID: #

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I think, when the time comes, I will base it more on my child than choosing a general view point. I had my computer in my room when I was a teenager, and I prefered it because it did give me my privacy, but I could be -trusted- with that privacy. It wasn't so much my having anything to hide, but simply because I don't like people looking over my shoulder.

There are going to be dangers regardless of where a computer is located. A parent can't watch their child every second of the day. I think the best defense is to do your best at teaching them right and wrong and instilling morality into them, and hope for the best. Truthfully, if they feel like you are invading their privacy, it's only going to motivate most of them to do exactly what you don't want them doing.

I am not saying that it's smart to just let them be, but going so far as to check their e-mails and conversations, etc. will only spark that rebellious streak in a teenager.

14th Apr, 2006 - 3:00am / Post ID: #

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it did give me my privacy, but I could be -trusted- with that privacy.


Well, thought my son could be trusted, too. He has always been sensible and mature for his age. We had a great relationship, we talked about everything under the sun... or so I thought. I had a horrendous wake-up call.

So, I appreciate that teenagers should be allowed more freedom than, say, a 9-year-old. But I also believe that kids of all ages still need *some* supervision and parental involvement in any internet activity.



2nd May, 2006 - 2:20am / Post ID: #

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I found an article earlier that was titled "Pros And Cons Of Kids' Web Use". This isn't directly discussing a computer in a childs bedroom yet some of the information contained could give new perspective to the idea of unsupervised internet use for children. I do not wish to go into a lot of details as I am afraid I will butcher the information but I do suggest this as a must read article.

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Post Date: 2nd May, 2006 - 12:59pm / Post ID: #

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My kids are still young so I obviously monitor everything they do including the computer. I have it in the living room so that I can monitor them not only for what they are playing, but because kids can be destructive to a pc!

When my kids get older, I would not have a problem putting a PC in their room because I know that I will be monitoring my network, logging activity from I'm, Email, and Internet Temp files at least at first. I think that it should be done discretely at first, give them the chance to prove themselves trust worthy. But predators do exist, and I trust my kids, not them, so one should always monitor their childs and teenagers activitys if not for your piece of mind but for their safety.

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2nd May, 2006 - 1:17pm / Post ID: #

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Babyblues said:

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I think the best defense is to do your best at teaching them right and wrong and instilling morality into them, and hope for the best.


As a parent myself, I just cannot "hope" for the best. I have to make sure I put everything in order that my child will not fall victim of a sexual predator, despite of what I teach my children, there are "monsters" out there, very intelligent in the art of manipulation, that will make any kid fall into their traps. Anyone can go online right now to America Most Wanted web site and can see for themselves the amount of child predators that exist. We should not live in fear, yet if things can be avoided, then should be avoided.

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but going so far as to check their e-mails and conversations, etc. will only spark that rebellious streak in a teenager.


Even though technically that may be true, thanks that a concerned mother and sister checked the computer of her 12 years old daughter, they discovered she has been sexually abused (twice) by a 27 years old man she met online. And there are hundred of cases like that...

As Farseer well said, she thought her son could be trusted too. Even what we consider the "best" children who have been taught great principles can fall into these traps, even adults fall for them. So in my opinion, it is not really all a matter of trusting your child but making sure they are safe in every possible way while they are online. It's understandable that you are giving your perspective as a daughter having the computer at your bedroom and being safe doing so, maybe your opinion may change once you become a parent. Believe me, things look pretty different from the other side. Your children (and I am sure everybody would agree) are everything for a parent's life.

Konquerez said:

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But predators do exist, and I trust my kids, not them, so one should always monitor their childs and teenagers activitys if not for your piece of mind but for their safety.


Exactly, it's all a matter of not trusting the other side of the internet. Every precaution should be taken to ensure their safety.

Reconcile Edited: LDS_forever on 2nd May, 2006 - 1:22pm



2nd May, 2006 - 5:52pm / Post ID: #

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In the new house we are moving into, my daughter's bedroom, and the computer room will both be downstairs. I did this on purpose so that 1) she has easy access to the computer as she is starting to use it more for school and 2) to give her the easy access so that I can see what she is going to be doing on it.

I haven't given her an email address or anything like that yet, and I will be tracking the activity on that pc so I know exactly where she is visiting. I am giving her the benefit of the doubt, but monitoring discreetly at the same time. She knows I work in the IT industry, so getting something by me would be extremely difficult. With that in mind, I am trusting her to make the right decision, but at the same time not ignoring or turning a blind eye to what she is doing.



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