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Winning And Losing

I don't like to lose. Sometimes, I can get over competitive about things.
I try not take losing so hard because you can't win all the time and you've got to be gracious....but somewhere in the back of my head I feel a little bitter and sore and I'm already looking forward to the next clash. As for winning, its sweet truimph. But I absolutely DETEST it when the losers are very unsporting and they show it openly. They'll go around trying to take the victory away from you by saying oh they cheated, or the referee was unfair, or, we should have won. It makes me feel alot less happy.

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Those losers you describe also hate to lose. When you lose, how do you behave?

I, too, hate to lose. I am very competitive. Probably too competitive at times. This facet of my personality has helped me progress in my career and probably succeed in life as well, but it can be difficult in maintaining friendships unless it is tempered.

What I have found is in certain areas and with certain people I can back off and not compete, but if I am playing with another competive person it can't be done unless they also are willing to back off. For example, I love to play golf. I found if I was playing with people who played significantly worse than I play (so there is no real competition) I can just relax and have fun. I let them (in fact I encourgage them) take extra shots when they mess up, etc. I found I was having more fun and even playing better myself when this was the case. So, now, when I play, I try not to care about the ultimate outcome. I often play par 3, 9 hole by myself and if I don't like a shot I made, I pick up the ball and try again. Not only is it more fun, but I am improving as well.

However, if I am playing a board game with someone, I always play to win. Even with my grandson. Yet, if we are racing, I let him beat me! Go figure.

Edited: tenaheff on 6th Jan, 2004 - 9:24pm

Winning And Losing Health & Special Psychology

Yea I do not like to lose either. I am very competitive. But the type of losers you have described, Xtra..I do not like to even be around. I find it very unsportsmen like for them to act in that way too. Sure everyone wants to win, but if everyone won, where would the fun be in the competition?

I find that when I am competing at something that I am very passionate about, I will also get that bitter feeling in the back of my mind, but I do push it back and put on my best smile and admit to my defeat. I just take the lose as something to work or on improve to be better the next go around.

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I hate to lose I love to win, when I'm winning I'm the type of player who will make fun of the one losing (yeah, my evil side ). When I lose I'm pretty quiet and I cannot wait for a second chance!!!!! Bad losers are those who get all upset for a simple game!!! bah....

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I do not particularly like losing either. I am not the one to whine, though, when I do lose, or to accuse the winner, unless he unjustly won. I also do not like boasting about victories, but I am pleased with them nevertheless, and keep it to myself.

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Everyone is competitive to a degree. My wife is extremely competitive and it annoys her to no end that I am quite a bit more laid back with respect to winning or losing. It is not that I do not like to win. We all want to win. It really just does not bother me that much if I lose in sports. I am much more driven to participate in sports that are more of a personal challenge, but mixes competition with others. I have always loved to participate in running and cycling events. I never win. It is more of a competition with myself to improve. I get a lot of satisfaction out of that.

However, at work, I love to compete. Give me a problem that no one has been able to solve and I am in heaven!

Vincenzo

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I've gotten to a point to where, as much as I love competition, I love actually being able to participate, whether I win or lose. I used to be horrible about having to win when I played soccer, but last Spring when we played flag football at school, it was more about just having fun at the practices and doing our best. Of course, we wanted to win, but after having such a blast all season, when it came time to play the game, we were just happy with the time of fellowship we got to spend together. When we won, it was even better because we had tried so hard together and we had supported one another.

When six of us were combined with six of the other girl's dorm, and we played against an off campus team, we were the underdogs. Still, we went in knowing that we were going to lose, but we had fun. Because we weren't so completely caught up in winning, we had a great game, and ended up kickin butt.

I think we enjoy our victories more when we don't focus so much on winning, but simply having fun and enjoying ourselves.

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Yeah, it's pretty hard for ANYONE to actually LIKE losing, but I agree, they shouldn't start complaining about something and claiming stupid things. A lot of the time I can't say I'm perfect about losing, but I at least try to be ok about it. That might be a reason that I'm on the computer a lot because I find it harder to get mad and at least it wouldn't ruin anyone elses fun if I did get mad since I could just not type it in. I'm also very competitive so a lot of the time I avoid getting in competitions because I might be TOO competitive and start doing stupid things...