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What Do You Find The Hardest To Do?

what do you find the hardest to do?



1) Telling others no when they ask for help?
2) Askig for help?
3) Watching someone you love hurt?
4) Throwing away stuff that you have kept for ever?
5) Taking time for youself ?

Do Hardest Find You What

Xtra, this is an "xtra" difficult question! All of those are really hard for me to do. But I tried to put them in order of most difficult:

(1) 3) Watching someone you love hurt? This just makes me want to cry. Being helpless to "fix it" is so frustrating and ... humbling.

(2) 2) Asking for help? This is really hard for me. My mother taught me this one, and she still has a hard time with it at 70. So I'm guessing I better start getting better at it.

(3) 1) Telling others no when they ask for help? I'm doing better with this -- as my life fills up with tasks and activities, I'm getting much better at saying, "Sorry, I can't do it."

(4) 4) Throwing away stuff that you have kept for ever? I'm right now in the process of moving and I'm tossing stuff I have to wonder what possessed me to keep it in the first place? I have the contract for a car I bought in 1986, that was sold at least 10 years ago. What's that all about? (Tossed it this morning with a bunch of other old papers)

(5) 5) Taking time for youself ? (Ahem.) If you notice the amount of time I spend here... that's a big clue

Edited: FarSeer on 4th Apr, 2004 - 3:03pm

What Do You Find The Hardest To Do? Health & Special Psychology

Whew, Xtra you really ask soul searching questions!
I pretty much concur with FarSeer. In thinking about how I would answer these questions though, I can see how I have grown/matured in the last 5 years.

First would be #3, Watching some you love hurt. My little brother is going through severe depression right now, and it is heartbreaking for me. The family want him to go to a Dr and see if medication will help, he won't leave the house. It's good I am 300 miles away, otherwise I would physically drag him to Drs. He may outweigh me by 75 lbs. but he will always be my baby brother!

Second would be #5, Taking time for myself. I see this question as taking Quality Productive time for myself. I don't, not totally. When I am not on this board, I am wasting time.

Third is #2, Asking for help. I can ask for help when I need big things done. Say my piece of furniture of an Organ moved from one room to another, or my car towed when it dies(last car I had), asking the youth of the Church to help me clean up my yard. But when it comes to other things, personal and spiritual, I usually don't ask.

Fourth is #1, Saying No. This is easier, now, for me to do. I have had to set limits, not only of my time and energies but also by what saying yes could cost me financially. I used to always say Yes, because I didn't want to hurt feelings, or be thought as selfish. But by always saying yes, I was being taken advantage of. I am selective in what I say yes to now. I make certain that I can do what ever it is with a Glad and Cheerful Heart, and get the thing done in a timely fashion.

Last is #4, Throwing stuff out. In 4 years I have moved 3 times! The first move was when I left my husband. The largest item I chucked out was 220lbs. Then I left furniture, TV, material things that I had not used for years. Each move from then on, was a move up to a better house, better neighborhood. I tossed magazines, papers that I can get the same information off the net with the minimum of surfing for, I also tossed "Might Come Handy's". When you have to lug all that stuff from one house to another you begin to wonder just exactly what is it Handy for?? If it hasn't been used YET it isn't going to be.

Edited: AGene on 4th Apr, 2004 - 3:44pm

Do Hardest Find You What

My order of difficulty is exactly like FarSeer's.

I can't stand to watch others hurt. It doesn't matter who they are. This is even more difficult when it is someone I love

I have a very hard time asking for help. I am very independent. In addition, I hate to inconvenience anyone.

I have a hard time saying no as well. I am better at this than I used to be, but I suffer a guilty conscience when I don't do everything I am asked to do. Maybe this is because I am so reluctant to ask for help that I assume everyone else is just as reluctant. So, if they are asking for help they really need it. I realize this isn't exactly how it always works, but this probably has something to do with my thought process.

I have trouble throwing stuff out because I am always afraid I will need it just after I get rid of it.

I don't have any trouble taking time for myself. I do this regularly. I understand how important this one is to my well being.

Do Hardest Find You What

I find it hard to conform to people, and try to act fake. I notice other people do that to survive but its really hard for me to do it. I like being myself and sometimes that dosnt flow with other people, so it makes more pressure.

What Do You Find The Hardest To Do?

I like this question. Now let me see....

(1) Watching someone you love hurt?

I don't think anyone enjoys watching the one you love suffer. This can be stressful and you usually feel so useless that there is nothing you can say or do, to alleviate your loved one's pain.

(2) Throwing away stuff that you have kept for ever?

I hate throwing away my precious junk! I know it is old, outdated and I never use it anymore but the sentimental value attached to it, makes it worthwhile to have it!

(3) Asking for help?

I never enjoy asking anyone for help except when it comes to cooking and housework!

(4) Telling others no when they ask for help?
It all depends on the individual. If it is someone I admire and respect, it is so hard to tell that person no. However, if it is someone I do not particularly like, well the no just rolls off my tongue!

(5) Taking time for youself?

Hmm sometimes this can be difficult but not impossible!

Message Edited... Edited by LDS_forever: I just fixed your bold tags.

Edited: LDS_forever on 5th May, 2007 - 7:16pm