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Loss Of Trust

As some of you may know I recently was ripped out of the best relationship I've known. I'm not one to talk about my feelings especially online. Due to the nature of the break up, (her parents told her she's not allowed to see me again, and they threatened me with having a restraining order put on me and having me put in Jail.

When this happened I went self-destructive and didn't realize it until recently. At the same time I realized what mental state I was in, I realized that I have lost trust in all mankind. I have been spit on by others all my life and I believe that trusting in anyone but God and self is foolish and is unwise. I don't know why I'm putting this has a thread, maybe I have hope that someone will be able to show me that it is I who is unwise. I don't know. If this gets deleted then so be it.

Trust Loss

I would like to answer this on a spiritual level, BUT we are in the Psychology Board so I will answer it based on that. First off it is natural to feel a bit depressed sometimes because things did not go our way, however, it is not natural to allow that depression to foster to the stage that we become unnatural in our disposition towards others, our work, etc.

It is important to understand that sometimes things happen for a good reason, for instance, maybe you thought this was the girl for you, but really it wasn't. I would start looking forward, and not behind, just as you have found someone before you can find others who are serious about you. Maybe it will help you to be different in the next relationship, you will be more wise now and can better see how things will evolve before they happen.

May I suggest some good reading: James Allen 'As A Man Thinketh'. It helped me many times, it will surely help you, and best of all it is a very short book, so it takes nothing at all to be on the right road.

Loss Of Trust Health & Special Psychology

First, let me say that I was sorry to hear of your breakup. Secondly, I think that it's natural to feel total devastation at losing somebody that you love dearly (whether it be a breakup or bereavement) the end result is still that you have been torn apart, but unlike bereavement with a breakup, you do get the chance to move on and hopefully meet somebody who is just right for you.

All humans are not the same, and whilst at the moment you feel angry with the whole world in general, I'm sure that there is somebody out there for you that when you meet them, will totally re-instate your confidence in mankind.

I'll be rooting for you that you meet that person soon, and that all these troubles will be left behind you. I'm glad that you've got your church, if they offer support, accept it, that's what true friends are for!

Best wishes to you Zelph,
Diane.

Trust Loss

Zelph

First of all, please allow me to say that you have a lot of courage to place your experience here on the board. I feel sad that the relationship didn't work out. But I admire the fact that you realise that the time has come for you to let go of the past. I can understand why you felt like you "lost control" because if someone threatened me with a restraining order and having me incarcerated, I would be furious too! I think you were angry because here you were in a good relationship that ended very suddenly. And to add insult to injury, the parents' threats made you feel very hurt and rejected. Hence the reason why you lost your trust in mankind! It is wise that you have faith in God but don't turn your back on mankind. Humans are very complex creatures; they can be wise, fun-loving and sometimes, downright cruel. But always remember, what doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger.