The Ten Commandments for Parents of Special Needs Children
1. Take one day at a time, and take that day positively. You don't have control over the future, but you do have control over today.
2. Never underestimate your child's potential. Allow him, encourage him, expect him to develop to the best of his abilities.
3. Find and allow positive mentors: parents and professionals who can share with you their experience, advice, and support.
4. Provide and be involved with the most appropriate educational and learning environments for your child from infancy on.
5. Keep in mind the feelings and needs of your spouse and your other children. Remind them that this child does not get more of your love just because he gets more of your time.
6. Answer only to your conscience: then you'll be able to answer to your child. You need not justify your actions to your friends or the public.
7. Be honest with your feelings. You can't be a super-parent 24 hours a day. Allow yourself jealousy, anger, pity, frustration, and depression in small amounts whenever necessary.
8. Be kind to yourself. Don't focus continually on what needs to be done. Remember to look at what you have accomplished.
9. Stop and smell the roses. Take advantage of the fact that you have gained a special appreciation for the little miracles in life that others take for granted.
10. Keep and use a sense of humor. Cracking up with laughter can keep you from cracking up from stress.
-- Author Unknown
I can relate to everyone of those, especially #1 which is hard to find, #6 where people always think they have the answer for you and #10, where sometimes you really do just have to laugh or you will go insane!
This is so true! I am trying my best #2 since kids with special abilities do not feel self-confident and the word "can't" is always in their vocabulary.
Whereas I will not challenge the wisdom of the author of those commandments per say I don't totally agree with the first one at the end. We do not have control over today either. The only thing that you have some control over is your reaction to a situation and we know at times we lose that control too. All the other things I more or less agree with. Remember too that the child didn't chose to be here, you did that for him/her.
I too can relate to everyone of these, in part or in whole.
I'm not a parent yet but just from observing my own parents and a couple of others I can tell you that one of the best things you can do for your children is to be their friend without judging them constantly. Parents need to have children on the right path yes, but they also need to make them feel that they can go to back to the parent without being put down if they drift from the path. This is so important.
I think that these points are pretty much all true, you can only do the best that you can do, and enjoy learning as you and your child 'travel along' through life :)
Keeping calm and keeping your humor are major points too !