Men think they have it hard from pubity to manhood, but what about women... your normal, then morning sickness, your belly gets huge, you have pain, you go to the hospital and after more pain you have a bran new baby earning you the title of mother.
If you are mother, what tips would you give to those who are thinking about becoming a mother?
From Deseret News:
ADJUSTING TO MOTHERHOOD
You go to the hospital as one -- albeit a bigger than normal one -- and you come
home as two. Every time a baby is born, reminds author Lisa Groen Braner, a
mother is born, or re-born.
https://deseretnews.com/dn/view/1%2C1249%2C...36208%2C00.html
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Read books about what could be expected like, changes in your body, the baby development and books along that line.
Rub your belly and read and talk to your unborn child. They say that the unborn child hears what's going on outside of the mother's womb.
If you are unsure of something going on, ask someone. That's what the doctors and nurses and even your mother are there for. No matter how silly the question, always ask. It's better to know than to be uninformed. ;)
Take your vitamins and eat healthy meals. Remember, what you eat, your baby eats too.
The morning sickness will pass eventually. If you have feelings of morning sickness, try eating some plain crackers. That usually helps with the stomach upset.
Walking is great for you and your unborn child.
Don't worry about gaining weight, it's mainly baby weight and you usually shed the extra weight off eventually after your child is born.
If your belly itches, try not to scratch it. Use some mild body lotion and gently rub it on your belly.
Babies require lots of love and attention.
Remember, no matter how frustrated you may become, don't take it out on your baby. It is a little 'mini-you' so to speak. Give your child lots of TLC and treat your child like you would want to be treated. The keyword to being a good mother is patience, love, and caring. :)
I've seen so many adjustments to motherhood, it is simply amazing the transformation that take place!
If I were telling a friend how to prepare:
Ditto to what everyone has already said. I won't repeat it, however, I would like to provide a glimpse of an alternate reality...
The birth of a baby isn't always "conventional". If one plans, or is forced by an emergency, to deliver via C-section, the woman's initial introduction to hands-on mothering is going to be quite different than already expressed. She will need a lot of help, especially the first week.
Pain. We're talking invasive abdominal surgery here. Of course the mother will have some form of anesthesia, usually an epidural. In most U.S. hospitals following the surgery the mother is placed on a self-dispensing morphiene drip. This is usually for about 24 hours. If morphiene isn't used, another pain killer may be administered. Pain management should be discussed with the doctor as medications can be passed on to the baby through breast milk.
More pain. After the surgery, the mother will have a catheter inserted. This is usually for about 24 hours. Removal of the catheter can be uncomfortable. The first couple times emptying the bladder may hurt. Passing the first bowel movement is much like the proverbial "[deficating] a brick" as the stomach muscles are involved. Most hospitals will offer a stool softener prior to ease this a bit.
Awkwardness. C-sections are much more of a challenge here as well. Simple movement may seem to take Herculean effort for a while. Vigorous laughing, coughing ar sneezing may cause physical aggrevation. Nursing will be more a matter of strategic placement (most C-section moms find the "football" hold most comfortable). Walking steadily may take a few days. Carrying the baby during this time might best be left up to someone else. It is also recommended to not lift anything over 13 pounds for up to two weeks, depending on the mother's pain.
One thing I cannot emphasize enough is that if a trusted individual offers to help, take him/her up on it.
I hear ya, Fugi! My first C-sec was a nightmare... I couldn't even get out of bed by myself the first two weeks.
That was probably the biggest reality check -- babies don't always conform to your schedule!! And they don't understand basic language, so they can't do what you tell them to; they also don't *speak* basic language, so you can't understand what they are telling you.
However, my second C-sec, in comparison, was a breeze. I was driving and shopping with just me and the baby at 2 weeks -- and she was near 11 lbs at birth. I healed up so fast -- it was truly a miracle.
Roz
Hey, Roz! Both my boys were emergency C-sections. And my incision became infected both times! Talk about a slow, painful recovery... My first son, Thomas (6) is my special needs child (more about this on the "overprotectiveness" thread). He was failure to thrive at birth, and too weak to nurse. Probably a good thing at that time because of the antibiotics I was prescribed. Colin (3), however, nursed vigorously and as often as he could. Thank goodness by that time there was Zithromax!