Sometimes I heard the phrase 'He's a succesful father' or a 'successful mother' but what really makes a father or a mother successful. How do you measure it?.
That is a really tough question to answer, because it's subjective. What do *you* consider "success" in parenting? For some people, it means having children that actually lived past their teenage years (meaning the parents didn't kill them!). For others, it could mean having a strong relationship with their kids, even if the kids are not living church standards. For others, it means all their kids are active in church, were sealed in the temple, and have stable, happy home lives.
All of us have our own standards as a measurement for success with our kids. I still haven't decided if I'm a success or not; my kids aren't old enough for me to judge. (yes, my son will soon be 21, but he has yet to have a significant life event to determine who he is.) So my criteria for my success as a parent is how my children will live their lives. Do they have any common sense? Can they make important decisions (or any decisions at all) well? How do they treat other people in every day life, and especially in difficult situations? Do they follow through on promises? etc.
In my opinion, of course.
I agree with FarSeer because the idea of successful parenting is subjective, depending on culture and perceptions.
I'm not close to being a parent, but I will say that my parents raised us as independent young adults, while at the same time, providing a strong support system for us to fall back on if need be.
We were not raised in a religious home, but one thing for certain, we always knew we were loved....and I think thats the bottom line for successful parenting ;)
For me it is simple... if the end the children love their parents and their parents love their children, wasn't / isn't it successful?
|For me it is simple... if the end the children love their parents and their parents love their children, wasn't / isn't it successful?|
Well remember, in the end we have agency... think about it. Who is the best parent of all? Heavenly Father of course, but how many of his children have fallen away? A lot, so does that mean we rate his parenting as bad? No, not at all, He has given all... even to His own Son. Does He love us? For sure... even if they are bad. This is a successful parent.
| But did I teach him how to live life? If my son commits cold-blooded murder, am I a successful parent because he loves me and I still love him? I dunno.|
How about the parent with two children who are complete opposites? One is near perfect - good grades, involved in wholesome activities, helps around the house, tutors younger children, works a part-time job, etc. The other is a disaster - defiant, runs away from home, skips school, is arrested for shoplifting multiple times, gets pregnant at 15, etc. Both kids raised in the same house, same parents, there is no drug or alcohol use in the home, no abuse. This parent loves both children very deeply. Is this parent successful?
|I don't know, I have serious doubts that if you are a really good parent your child will become an evil one...|
|Does He love us? For sure... even if they are bad. This is a successful parent.|