
ANN CANNON: GOODBYE-ING, SHORT OR LONG, IS INEVITABLE
What's the best way to say goodbye to the person who's leaving for a long time? Do you opt for the `nongoodbye`? Pretend that someone isn't leaving until he or she is actually gone?
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I have independent missionary friends, who have just left the country to go on an international mission. The long shot of it is that in reality, they will probably never return to the UK, and I will never see them again.
I said my farewells to them a few weeks ago, but couldn't bring myself to say a 'goodbye', it sounded somehow so permanent and forever, so instead opted for saying, 'Bon voyage-- a safe journey', and let them know that we will be thinking of them.
It seemed to sound a bit nicer, and they left happy instead of sad.
I don't like the non-goodbye. It may be difficult to say goodbye, but not to do so would seem uncaring or cowardly somehow. I feel it's better to face reality and to let the person know they are loved and will be missed. It would be terrible to not say goodbye, and then have something happen to that person. Talk about regrets!
I'm all for keeping it to "farewell" and "Till we meet again" rather than "goodbye." Not that I think goodbye is any more permanent or any sadder than any other parting words, just that I do believe with many people in our circle of friends and family that we will see them again.