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Who Comes First? - Page 2

I tend to put others first before me. I think my family members happiness is important. I will try to make sure they get to do what they want or go where they want before I go where I want. I think making my family happy is very important. I do however put my foot down if it is something that is going to cause another embarrassment. Usually there is a consensus of where we are going to go or to do something.

I would rather be uncomfortable but know that my family is happy than me be happy and them be uncomfortable. I am not a softie as some may take me for or try to get something over me.

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By putting your family's happiness and needs first you are putting your own needs first because that is what makes you happy.

Who Comes First? Health & Special Psychology

I guess that makes sense in a round about sort of way. I never thought of it like that before.

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It is a win/win situation. By taking care of the ones you care about most you are taking care of yourself. If you do not take care of yourself - your health(emotional and physical) you won't be around to take care of anyone else. Think of it as driving down the road and finding someone who has run out of gas. You have an empty gas can but that won't help the person unless you fill it with gas first. Once you have filled your can you can share it with the other person and help them get their car started. Even if you siphon it from your gas tank - you still have to have enough in your tank to share with them and get you where you are going.
That is how it is with giving and caring for others. We have to have something to give and the way we do that is by having our own needs met.
It can be taken to an extreme and then you are talking about selfishness. But there is nothing selfish about meeting your basic needs.
What would happen if you were on an airplane with a small child and the oxygen masks came down? You always take the oxygen mask for yourself first so you will be able to help the child. And so it is with most things in life.

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Ok I think I understand what your saying now.

The only thing is I would not stop and help someone on the side of the road and I would not help the child on the plane either. Well if they were someone I knew then maybe.

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As a married man I try to put my children and wife first in most aspects. Yes sometimes that does mean if something is making me miserable I deal with that so that I can interact with my family better.

I see a person in need I do try to help with in what I would refer to as safe limits. I would not endanger me or my family to help some one else just would not make sense.

I know my wife does the same every day. I think it helps in a relationship when this occurs. If it does not and the other starts abusing your good nature one can stop and should always keep their eyes open for signs of this occurring.

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If I feel that someone is taking me for granted and using my good natureness for their own advantage I take it away from them. I can turn into a mean person if I have to. I do not like doing that but with some people you have to so they do not think they can just walk on you.