I’m currently trapped with a narcissist. I didn’t realize what was happening when the relationship started and now it’s too late. We have two great kids together and we don’t fight in front of them so I’m not worried about hurting their childhood. Because of them I’ll suffer through it. But every day I feel I’m put down or ignored or made to feel like I’m the worst thing that happened in her life. I remind myself that she treats everyone in her life like this, not just me. It’s why her family doesn’t come around and she has no friends. I’m not good at arguing so I just sit back and take things which I learned is actually good because saying something to defend myself just feeds into what she wants and makes things worse. It’s like she likes to fight and feeds off of reactions. Plus I never would win in an argument anyway because everything that is said and done is twisted around in some sick way.
Voidling my man, you are in an abusive relationship and you are there for the kids. Are you leaving when they become adults? I've heard that narcissist are hard to communicated with simply because their view of the world is so twisted.
This person has a definite view of the world that is twisted, everything is twisted to this person. A person can say something very innocent and she will twist it into something ridiculous that makes me wonder how she could have possibly come to that conclusion. She usually twists things people say into being an attack towards her. I have many years to go till the kids get old enough where I would consider leaving. It is such a long way off that I haven't put serious thought into it.