I agree with you on that. I know I never played "Everquest" because the cost was more than I was willing to spend. I balance my gaming time and my home time very well. I may go three or four days of playing but I will then go a week or more without playing. My wife has her games she likes to play too. I think as long as we keep it together and do not get too into the games we can use them for an outlet.
I find there are a few women who enjoy the gaming as a way to get out and relax without actually leaving their homes.
It is something they can do while stuck home with small children. And it is harmless as long as it does not become excessive and cause them to neglect the house & kids. It gives them an outlet to interact with people over two feet tall. My daughter has small children and she has a very balanced life. She plays occasionally or will let her oldest (4yo) son play age appropriate games - occasionally. But her home and yard are immaculately kept up, better than mine.
Edited: alskann on 18th Jul, 2008 - 6:38pm
|QUOTE (Krusten @ 18-Jul 08, 10:00 AM)|
|I believe the latter about you taunting them and not the stereotype about us being aggressive if we don't win.|
|...still though its better than the guys I know that yell hurtful things when you beat them.|
Sorry but I had to laugh at that one. I have 5 nephews and the oldest is a big brute and tough his brothers always had the same sediments as what you just stated. Though he was first in line to smash any who bothered any of them.
Although you hear stories of relationships going wrong more frequently because of the fact that the man is into his games too much, there is the odd story of the woman being too into games. I had a friend that said that the sims ruined his last relationship because she played too much. I have my suspicions that he's making that up, because if I had to live with this guy, I'd probably padlock my room at night and hire an exterminator for his room every month.
But back on the topic of games and relationships, my last relationship was with a guy that was heavily into competitive gaming. This was fine by me, as we had similar interests in games, and when we didn't, there was always something for me to do close by without having to spend time away (ex. play on my own laptop with a game I like while attending a competition). Although the relationship ended for alot of different reasons, I'd have to say the gaming was a major one. He started spending time away from me when I was ill, so that he could continue competing, instead of keeping me company. Or he would keep me up at night when I had school the next day, screaming over vent while he played, instead of talking in a low voice. I can understand maybe I wasn't the right woman for him, so spending time away from me, travelling without me, not respecting my wishes would come easily to him. However, this man professed that he loved me and always said I came first, then proceeded to place me second...I finally gave up trying to understand it and just faced the fact that he didn't love me as much as I loved him, even though he disagreed.
To this day, he travels around the country competing and is single. He has had a few love interests who have settled down for more sedentary men.
So that is an example of a gamer + gamer relationship gone wrong, but there are many other success stories. I know of another couple in my area whom I have met that live together with three children. The woman is the main caregiver for the children, but the couple gets plenty of quality time together to play games together.
In my current relationship, my parnter and I have our computers on the same desk (it's custom and large, so we've got lots of space) and we have no kids, so we can often spend whole evenings or afternoons together playing whatever.