Someone was recently bringing up this topic on a social media platform. They were tired of trying to share topics about their lives only to be judged and put down by the groups they joined. The following was my reply.
I have seen this happen many times (Toxic/salty replies) for many reasons. Writing in general: the internet is full of people who simply do not know how to communicate properly. Usually, what should be a discussion is often an uneven scolding where one feels they are the authoritative dispenser of all facts / truth (Including your personal life) and everyone else is the kindergartner now trying to find their way in life. As such, there is no opening or base for discussion because they are speaking with emotion and their own perspective. I have found that if the moderators / admin of a group is this way then there is no point to be in that group. However, if it is just a few members then simply blocking them will help.
Haters are going to hate regardless of what you do or say. What puzzles me is why a hater would choose to be part of something they hate or where they are hated. I hardly have time to do all I need to do in a day and such distractions (Toxic people) cannot be entertained in the least. As such, my advice to anyone in that situation where they are being bullied online - is to move yourself away from it - you don't need that crap.
Bloeri, no, I am not saying that. I am saying that only using emotion and a narrow perspective does not make for effective communication. Proper communication tries to understand what the other is communicating. If you do not agree, then simply respond as to why… there is no need to insult, belittle or become personal.
Yes I agree!
Bloeri, apologies, "You" in this instance is not meant to single you out and I could see how you took it that way. I should have written it this way, "If one does not agree, then one should simply respond as to why… there is no need to insult, belittle or become personal."
For me since I grew up in COD lobbies I always saw it as jokes that can go too far at times. I normally try my best to be respectful but sometimes you can't help but let the frustration and anger slip through. Even the nicest people have a breaking point. I think Courtesy online certainly existed and still does in limited communities such as this one, But I also feel for large triple A titles or things like reddit, 4Chan, MySpace that it got lost somewhere. I wish it could go back to when I was younger when it was just harmless jokes taken out of line, but unfortunately I think it has evolved to actual disdain for your fellow human being. It's sad to see this as I've spent most of my life online. I used to love to be involved in communities and have discussions about different games, or beliefs. Unfortunately now those different beliefs are met with insults and degradation. Instead of understanding and compassion. I hope at some point we can go back to where Courtesy wasn't just that, a Courtesy, but instead a commonplace thing.
Edited: Jackson on 23rd Jan, 2021 - 2:12pm
Jackson, don't let the bad people out there limit your online activity. What I have noticed is that users online are gluttons for punishment. They keep going to places that will troll them as though they hope something will miraculously change.