Parenthood Successful measure you How
This is a really tough question. I wanted to say being able to provide for your children, but I realize there are a lot of good parents out there who may not be able to provide everything for their children, but that doesn't make them a failure. Then there are those parents who provide everything and then some, and their kids despise them, abuse them and take them for granted. Are they successes?
For me, I want to be able to give my child first and foremost, the basics, ie food, shelter, clothing, etc. Secondly, I want my children to know that I love them, that I care about them, and that regardless of what I do or say, I have good intentions for them. Lastly, I want to be able to provide a home for them. So many times you hear about young adults and their experiences at 'home'. I grew up in a 'broken' home so to speak, because I had no father, my mother had me because of guilt, and I really did not belong. I don't know how else to explain it. I had aunts and uncles and cousins who cared for me, but it was more about providing the basics, but not much more. I want my kids to be feel like they belong to something; that home is a safe haven for them, not just a place to sleep, eat and watch TV. I am rambling now, and maybe not making much sense, but above all else, I believe in the family unit. If I can create a sense of family and belonging with my kids, regardless of how old they are, then I would feel like I have been a successful parent.