I was once very addicted to video games. Now I will say that I am mildly addicted. I get all the latest games that appeal to me. Video games however for me has gotten predictable and I am bored pretty quick. When I get a game, I install when I reach home and at least give it a try for a couple hours. If you see me emerge in less than an hour then the game for me was total nonsense. When the new Doom came out I finished it in a week and people were like Why is my vocabulary so limited? I just said well the game was too predictable. I focus sometimes on RPG games that suppose to take a long time to finish but sometimes I get bored. World of Warcraft showed some promise as there is a lot of areas to explore but I don't find myself behind the game for entire nights at a time. As with all addictions though, people who are not addicted will never understand what it means to be addicted to anything for that matter. You hear people say, why don't you just stop what you are doing? People like to feel good, some use alcohol, some drugs, some exercise, some people like video games. As long as you are not addicted to these things, you will never understand what the person is going through and how hard it is to stop. Sometimes a person has to hit a bottom low to 'see' where his life is to overcome the addiction.
P.S. For the person who is trying to convince the wife/girlfriend, my advice is to not hide and do it. Let her know that you like video games (come on it's not porn) and the two of you come to a 'middle ground' per say. Before you may spend all night at the game, maybe now you should give her some time now don't you think? My wife knows about my love for video games and she allows me to spend time with it but make sure and get up in the morning and go to work, no excuse about tired or sleepy.
Yes you are right about that. I like to play video games but have generated mostly to the games on the computer nowadays. I play a game on line called Runescape as I found world of warcraft too predictable and not fun. I have my RPG computer games that I play too. I do not play them all day or all night as I have a life outside the virtual world too. I try top play a few times each week but know that I have a family to take care of. I used to be on nightly and that got to be too much. I want to do other things with my life and hot have "died with a joystick in his hands" written on my gravestone.
A bonafide addiction is something that disrupts the normal functioning of your life causing problems with relationships, work or other important aspects of daily living. There is nothing wrong with avid game playing as long as vital functions of life are not disrupted.
The most addictive forms of gaming can be the MMORPG's. Marriages have been destroyed over games such as Everquest and World of Warcraft. Of course there are some couples who have found a common ground with these games. There are also many people who's entire lives revolve around gaming. They do not have a life outside of their weekly and sometimes more often games. One's world should not become so enrapt in fantasy that you forget to live it.
That said, good things come out of gaming. You are required to use your mind and actually think outside the box. A good dose of fantasy is a positive thing in this dreary world. Traditional RPG's are bound only by the limits of one's imagination.
As long as one can keep things in perspective and take a time out to deal real life when necessary - game on.
This article is a really good, eye-opening read. The man who runs that institute is very smart, and he's dead-on. I was surprised to see that 80% of the people seeking help weren't actually addicted. I always thought that, no matter what the reasons for a person to pick up a game, it had to do with addictive chemicals being produced by the brain and addiction behaviours that made people keep playing so much. Now I'm seeing that alot of people are using the games for social acceptance morso than because they are addicted.
It makes me wonder about myself too. I don't consider myself addicted, but I do play alot. I have rarely felt that I was playing games because I need social interaction...but maybe deep down inside I do? (laugh)...something to think about.
I suspect that if I were single, I could get to where I was a very compulsive gamer... I don't know if I'd cross over to addiction or not.
A long time ago, I made the decision that at the very least, I would always choose a social occasion over my computer games.
If the family is going to the movies and I'm playing... I quit and go to the movies.
If some friends are going to sit down and play DnD face to face, I do that over computer games.
Have I ever stayed up far later than I should have in order to play computer games? Oh yeah... wayyyy too many times.
Have I ever gotten chewed out by my wife because she thought I spent too much time playing? Sadly... Yes :(
The thing to remember is that while it can be enjoyable and certainly take a lot of time... You have to have limits that keep it from taking over your life. If you can't at least do that, then you need help.