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I am ex-military, so my identity is more accessible than most, but that is beside the point, when I first joined this site, I expected the usual crap everyone spews all over the net. I like to remain disassociated from that, hence no real name no real picture. But the longer I am here the more respect I have for all of you, when you disagree with me you don't go around harassing me about it. Its one thing to read about it in the rules, its another to find someone intelligent and respectful enough to actually follow those rules. I will let you know who I am soon, just let me find a pic I'm not embarrased by.

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Well, I am still waiting I have found that most people are comfortable sharing intimate or personal details in the Mature section than the public areas of the Community. Maybe it is because of the heavy restrictions we place on being able to access the Mature section, but other than that the PM or Instant Messenger system is better if you want to discuss something that is not recorded for public use.

Recently, I encountered an old man living in the US who would not even share his feelings about political issues because he was afraid of the US government watching him. That is another element of being 'caught' I have not thought of, but at the same time I do not see anything being discussed in the Community that would warrant such fear.

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I would think that the forum would allot quite a bit of freedom. Scared of the federal government watching him? An international forum would be some place one would think you could consider yourself safe. But everyone has their fear.

I recently came across a person I work with who is extremely outspoken. I have tried to get them to come to the site, but he won't. His friends outside of work are apparently not aware of his views and they are forum and blog junkies as well. He is afraid they will find him posting and make fun of him. I have been finding that allot of people are strongly opinionated but are afraid to be themselves somewhere that their views are kept in public view.

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I have found that there are a lot of professionals out there that are willing to say something, but not actually join a Community like this, so what I have recently been doing is allowing the Factual Bot post for them if their opinion is expert or professional. An example can be found here: Civilians Training Soldiers. The Factual Bot in this post is actually quoting a Canadian Army Sgt. who read the post and wanted to comment.

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I think that there has to be some information that isn't shared publicly on the forum, but that more so you have to remember that people on this site are from all walks of life, all backgrounds, and all have their own personal/religious/political views. So remembering that what you are posting are yours views, and to be mindful that you don't upset others.

Also,there are ways that you can say a lot about yourself without saying a lot.ie--If you went to Irish dancing class for example, instead of telling everyone that you do Irish dancing, you could just say that you enjoy dancing.That way you are not left open for somebody else to narrow down who you could be.(unless you want everybody to know who you are), which personally I wouldn't.

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That is a good point, one that often many forget to do, but mostly because they are not used to being on an online Forum. I have invited some people here that are just simply afraid, so now I look for people who are already accustomed to using Communities as they already know the 'beat'. The first timers are usually too difficult and some how are afraid of 'being caught'.

Offtopic but, DianeC: After reading that post about you in the Florida hotel I hope you will share a Pic of yourself with us so I can at least try to imagine you trying to look for a bug in your suitcase. If not, privately, maybe?

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I have no problem that they know. My wife knows. Nothing to be ashamed of.

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I had to stop and think for a bit on this, as it is a multifaceted question.

I put I wouldn't want my family here, though I don't mean it really the way it sounds, and I'd recommend it to anyone as a good community, if they were interested in finding an online community, which they don't show any inclination for - they post on Facebook or watch videos or play online games, but don't post or read forums.

But my choice was because no matter how close a friend is, you feel like you can still say things or let them know things about you, that you don't feel (as much) bothered about their potential disapproval or realization of some aspects of you, that family does, because you're intimate with your family in a different way, where they are more expecting, maybe to be a conforming part of the whole - religion is one example, though I wouldn't mind *some* family knowing, others I don't want to hurt or upset or disappoint - there are plenty of other topics that I feel this same way about, with family. Also, as noted, you (at least I) are around your family, or have been, long enough, sometimes too long, and their drama, that the last thing you want on the net is to have to deal with them more - it's like a stray dog you chase away, and he's there two hours later: "I thought I got rid of you!"

So Discussions is a sort of good outlet, to let yourself speak honestly on topics you generally wouldn't discuss around some people, I think for me, a sort of therapy also, as I've got depression and anxiety and my counseling sessions have been recently canceled due to cutbacks, so I lost a good part of my treatment plan I felt helpful, and although I can talk to friends about most things, the anonymity, as well as intelligence and differing opinions, of some people the net, help me maintain a sort of distracted ability to get through bad times, and I've come to find that, short of my own pro-active contributions to other sites or making my own stuff, this forum seems to be a reliable level-headed place to think and read and post, and enjoy other people's own ideas, or play games.