
I had anger management issues when I was a teenager, like I expect many have, punching walls and such. I was able to join martial arts and learn to focus and control these emotions. This with some counselling from my mother, "Control your anger or it will control you." Allowed me to use this emotion as a tool and not let it use me. Now when I get angry it is for purpose and has a desired effect on those targeted.
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I get overwhelmed with anger very easily... and even thought I try to remove myself from the situation to cool off, I can't help but express my anger by yelling or throwing things.... whatever is appropriate at the time. Sometimes when I talk to my husband while I'm at work and he says something to make me become angry, I get so distracted after speaking softly to him, that I actually have to go outside to pace around or get into my car to blast my music for a few minutes. Sometimes I think I would like to go to an anger management class or group therapy, but then I think about the cost and time it would take and I get angry all over again.
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I get overwhelmed with anger very easily... and even thought I try to remove myself from the situation to cool off, I can't help but express my anger by yelling or throwing things.... whatever is appropriate at the time. |
Is A Little Bit Of Anger OK?
PITTSBURGH - Anger is good for you, as long as you keep it below a boil, according to new psychology research based on face reading. People who respond to stressful situations with short-term anger or indignation have a sense of control and optimism that lacks in those who respond with fear.
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How To Tell Somebody They Need Anger Management Part 2: The Four Main Reactions We Are Likely To Get
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No-matter how diplomatically we approach this topic, every person is individual and as such will have a different way of dealing with this news. While there is no way of telling how a person -even a close loved one- will take this advice, there are in my experience four main reactions. Preparing for any one of these is essential for keeping calm and not letting the situation become more awkward that it already is. Even if we think, or are convinced we know, the reaction that the person will take, we cannot be 100% sure and as such we should plan for each of the four reactions. Also while some people's reactions may have elements of more than one type of reaction, everybody will portray one of these four types of reaction to a greater or lesser extent.
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Anger - What Is It?
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What is anger actually? Anger is the emotional response. Everyone face situations when they get angry every day. It happens, when they do not get what they wish they frustrated very easily. Different psychiatrists, psychologists and health experts are working on different psychological problems such as depression, stress and conduct problems. These specialists try to help people to control and manage their anger in the best way possible.
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I am in anger management classes right now and I have to say they are not helping a lot. I think just admitting I have a problem has helped me confront and deal with my anger which has helped tremendously. However the actual classes are more of a nuisance than helpful.
I do get angry a lot all the time. I tend to give into that anger and express it with people I know more than strangers but I think that is just because I am around those people more. So of course they are going to see that anger a lot more from me.
People with real anger problems can go off on the drop of a hat. It can be getting cut off in the car, a slow person at the grocery line, someone laughing too much, on and on. It doesn't necessarily have to be for a really good reason. Sometimes just waking up makes me angry for about an hour or so.
I think I have anger issues because it is all I have left. Emotionally I do not know how to respond besides with anger. For me it was more of a coping mechanism or survival mechanism that helped me threw tough times. However once those times were over I still had that set in my personality.
It is sort of like getting injured and being prescribed pain medication. You use the medication because you need it but then after the pain is gone still have the desire to take the medicine.
Oliron, you're not alone in this journey. I also went through anger management classes and verbally abused those around me, this was a long time ago and things have changed.
Anger is a secondary emotion, there are hidden emotions (primary ones) underneath: fear, rejection, disappointment, sorrow, etc. Anger is just the symptom. You need to figure out what are those emotions first if you intent to deal with your anger.